I often hear from wives who have no idea what has
come over their husband and what contributed most to him having an affair. Many
wives tell me that they are not sure if they ever really knew their husbands at
all because the man they knew would not lie, cheat, or betray them in this way.
When you picture a stereotypical cheating man, you likely picture a shifty eyed,
deplorable type of person that can't look at you with a straight face and never
says anything that is truly sincere. I recently heard from a wife who said, in
part: "I am so shocked at and disappointed in my husband. He has always been a
person of integrity and honor. Yet now I am finding out that he has been having
an affair for the last four weeks. He went behind my back. He lied to me. And he
lied to her. He says he's sorry now, but he's probably sorry that he's been
caught. What kind of man has an affair? Because I feel like the one beside me is
now a stranger and that I've been wrong about him all along."
